Replace default with intention
In pursuit of an authentic, happy, meaningful life
Everything I write comes down to one thing: replacing default with intention. Default is what you do without choosing it, repeating what was done before or what others do. Intention is consciously committing to a direction. Each piece approaches it from a different angle, and together they build toward an authentic, happy and meaningful life.
— Juliette de la Rie
Foreword
When I consider the universe, I see an order, intelligence and such complexity yet perfection. I find it incredibly humbling.
All of this continues in its perfect complexity whether we do or not, yet we live as though life can only work out if we control how it unfolds. When something differs from what we expected, we become frustrated, resist it, or try harder to force the outcome we imagined. We give our own understanding so much authority, even though it can only ever account for such a small part of what is…
Foreword
Chapter 1: You don't need the whole picture to begin
Chapter 2: From wish to will
Chapter 3: Why fear blocks your willpower
Chapter 4: Growth begins with knowing yourself
Chapter 5: Your starting point is not the whole story
Chapter 6: Discovering your life’s purpose
Chapter 7: Don't let your ego get in the way
Chapter 8: Take control of how you experience life
Chapter 9: Life does not need our explanations
Chapter 10: Heart over head
Chapter 11: Begin with what you can change
Chapter 12: Perseverance and the definition of success
Chapter 13: Growth through difficult experiences
Chapter 14: Meaning at work
Chapter 15: How happiness and purpose sustain each other
Chapter 16: Awe makes the world bigger and you smaller
Chapter 17: How gratitude and savoring deepen happiness
Chapter 18: Becoming absorbed in life
Chapter 19: Connection and transformative relationships
Chapter 20: Kindness gives back
Chapter 21: Let go of money to make money
Chapter 22: Becoming an alchemist
Chapter 23: Make use of what others have to offer
Chapter 24: We grow up together
Chapter 25: Outgrowing ourselves
Chapter 26: Protect your energy without closing your heart